Setting Boundaries in Early Pregnancy: Scripts You Can Steal

There’s something about a positive pregnancy test that suddenly turns everyone into an expert—and gives them permission (at least in their minds) to comment, question, touch, and advise.

If you're newly pregnant and already feeling smothered by coworkers asking if you’re “sure you should be lifting that,” or family members dropping hints about baby names and nursery colors… you’re not alone.

Here’s the truth:
You’re allowed to set boundaries! And the time is right now.
You don’t owe anyone access to your body, your news, or your plans.

And the earlier you start setting those boundaries, the easier it becomes to maintain them throughout pregnancy and beyond.

Let’s talk about how to do it and exactly what to say. 

Here are a few sample scripts that you can adjust to your personal style:

Script #1: The "We're Not Ready to Share" Response

Use this when people are asking about your pregnancy before you're ready to open up.

What you can say:
“We’re still processing and taking things one day at a time. When we’re ready to share more, we’ll let you know.”

Bonus boundary:
You don’t need to smile while saying it. You’re allowed to protect your space even if it feels awkward.

Script #2: The "Please Don’t Touch Me" Statement

For when someone reaches for your belly—especially early in pregnancy when it’s not their business (or ever, frankly).

What you can say:
“I’m setting a personal boundary around touch during pregnancy, and I’d appreciate it if we could skip belly rubs.”

Or if you need a firmer version:
“I’m not comfortable being touched. Please don’t do that again.”

You can be warm and clear. You don’t have to soften your own comfort level to protect someone else’s feelings.

Script #3: The “I’m Not Looking for Advice” Redirect

Use this when the unsolicited opinions come rolling in about what you should eat, how you should sleep, or what you should plan.

What you can say:
“Thank you—I know you’re trying to be helpful. I’ve got a solid plan with my provider and doula, and I’m feeling good about it.”

Optional follow-up:
“If I need input, I’ll definitely ask.”

You don’t need to justify your choices to everyone who’s had a baby or watched one be born.

Here’s the thing…
Boundaries aren’t rude.
They’re responsible.
They help protect your mental health, your emotional energy, and your peace in early pregnancy—which can already feel tender enough without managing everyone else’s expectations.

If you’re struggling to navigate a tricky situation (a pushy coworker, an overbearing parent, or just a flood of advice you didn’t ask for), I’m here to help.

Want to talk through your exact situation?
I offer virtual consults where we can unpack what’s happening and come up with a custom boundary script that feels true to you. Whether it’s handling your boss, your sister, or your in-laws—we can walk through it together.

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Grab my guide Setting Healthy Boundaries here:

You deserve space to grow your baby, without growing your anxiety. Let’s protect that space together.

With you always,
Desirae
Harmony Births Doula Services
www.harmonybirths.com